A week before my birthday last year in 2024, I had a surgical abortion.
I walked through it carrying no guilt, no shame, no regret.
And nine months later that truth still holds.
I didn't carry regret, but I did carry shadows.
Grief moved through my body, showing up in the language of shifting hormones, growing PMS symptoms, unpredictable emotions and a subtle misalignment with my deeper truth. It took time, deep inquiry and devotion to bring myself back into harmony.
I found completion of the abortion journey during a Closing of the Bones ceremony while I was training to become a Womb Continuum Care Practitioner↗ in Mexico in 2025.
Looking back now, I understand that this child came to show me what needed to die within me. Old stories and parts of myself that no longer fitted who I was becoming.
This presence feels now like someone who visited briefly to open a portal, kiss my womb and then gracefully stepped aside so I could walk through it.
The Truth We Need to Speak
Abortion is not something to be taken lightly. It is indeed the termination of a life.
And whatever the karmic contract might be, it deserves reverence and deep acknowledgment..
Whether through natural miscarriage or medical/surgical/natural abortion, the physical impact on body, mind and emotions is undeniable:
- Hormonal imbalance that can take months to rebalance
- Cramping, bleeding, fatigue, mental fog
- Breast tenderness or unexpected milk production
- Weakened immune system
- Potential scar tissue in the womb or cervix
- Stress on liver and gut from anesthesia and medications
- Energetic imprints left on the womb, a memory many women feel long after
The womb is sacred.
What happens here deserves space, care and healing.
I don't wish this experience upon anyone.
I don't speak this from regret. Not even from pride.
But from responsibility.
To remind us that this experience is a rite. And it needs to be honored as one.
In an Ideal World
In an ideal world, as women we should understand our menstrual and fertility cycles deeply. We are conscious of our fertile windows. We understand the timeline of viability of the egg from our ovaries. Our partners take equal responsibility, knowing when and how to control their ejaculate.
And when an unwanted pregnancy does occur, abortion becomes the last resort, not the first.
And if it does happen, may we honor the soul that visited.
May we tend to our bodies with care.
May we grieve what was and walk forward wiser and more whole.
Abortion can be a sacred ending but only if we treat it that way.
For Those Walking This Path Now
If you are currently navigating this journey, or if you carry the memory of one in your body still, I want you to know: you are not alone.
I've created resources to support you through this passage with the depth, honesty and the reverence it truly deserves.
Download the Free eBook
I've poured my heart into a guide that holds space for all the complexity, all the nuance, all the truth of this experience.
This resource is for you if you need permission to feel everything. If you need tools for integration. If you need to know that your experience—whatever it looks like—is valid.
Listen to a Raw Conversation
I also sat down with my dear sister Melissa Sanger for one of the most vulnerable conversations I've ever had. We went deep into the reality of our respective abortions, the physical, emotional, spiritual dimensions that so often go unspoken.
Listen to the podcast episode here↗
This conversation is honest. It's raw. It holds space for the full spectrum of this experience without bypassing the difficult parts.
There Is No Right Way to Heal
For some, the decision is straightforward.
For others, it's absolutely devastating.
Some need to tuck the experience away to revisit later. Others process in the moment with healthy coping and strong support.
Some will need a therapist, a support group, a ritual or a trusted friend.
There is no prescribed timeline. No specific emotions you're supposed to feel. No right way to move through this.
But if ritual and ceremony call to you, if honoring this passage through creative expression, through grief work, through intentional healing feels true... these resources are here for you.
You Deserve Reverence
Whatever brought you to this threshold, you deserve reverence.
Your body deserves care.
Your story deserves to be witnessed.
Your healing deserves space.
May these resources serve you wherever you are on the path.
With deep respect for your journey,
Jasmine xx