PERIOD SEX - THE SACRED EXHALE

Most of these practices came into my life through curiosity rather than strategy.

I didn’t study them in textbooks or learn them from someone else.
I kinda just knew.

I felt something in my body that always said, "hey, there’s more here"
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I was always drawn to the deeper layers of sex, energy, blood, binding… and over time, period sex became one of those sacred thresholds I explored.

I was surprised, though, by how much conditioning and shame surrounded this topic, especially among women.

So please know that this post isn’t here to convince you of anything.

It’s here to offer clarity, support, and maybe a few truths that help you feel empowered in making your own decision.

Because when anything is approached with reverence instead of whispers and secrecy... it becomes sacred.

And if no one’s ever told you this:

Period sex can be one of the most healing, intimate, and euphoric experiences in a woman’s sensual life.

Here are some of the most common questions I’ve been asked, and what I’ve learned through experience, study and my own body wisdom.

1. Is it safe to have sex during your period?

Yes. 100%, IF both partners are healthy and there are no active infections.

In fact, for some women, it’s incredibly relieving.

Thanks to the prostaglandins in sperm (which help the uterus contract and clear), plus all the oxytocin, immune factors, and even stem-cell-like agents present in semen, many women feel:

• Less cramps

• Shorter periods

• More emotional ease

• A sense of deep nervous system reset

If you don’t have a partner, or you’re simply choosing to be with yourself, yoni wands and gentle solo play can also be beautiful.

One note: during menstruation, your cervix sits lower and is more sensitive.
So deep thrusting may feel uncomfortable or painful.

So for this reason, invite slow, soft movements, and positions like missionary or spooning as they can bring in both sensual containment and rest.

2. Can I get pregnant during period sex?

It’s uncommon, but it is possible.

If you have short cycles or irregular ovulation, be mindful that sperm can live up to 5 days in the vaginal canal.

If you ovulate soon after your bleed, there’s still a slight window for conception.

So, sister, Fertility Awareness is your friend.

Know your cycle. Track your rhythm and respect your body’s intelligence.

3. Is it messy?

Sometimes yes, and honestly, isn't that part of the beauty?

We’ve been taught to believe blood is dirty, shameful, or something to hide.
But your blood is sacred. It’s life force. It’s womb wisdom.

That said, there are ways to make the experience more contained and cozy:

• Use a dark towel or a waterproof bamboo blanket (they absorb up to 1L)

• Light candles

• Slow down. Set the tone. Let it be a ceremony.

4. Can period sex help with cramps?

Yes! And it’s one of the most underutilized remedies.

Orgasm during your bleed can:

• Trigger uterine contractions that help release stuck tissue and tension

• Flood your body with endorphins (natural painkillers)

• Release oxytocin, bringing emotional ease and bonding

• Calm the nervous system

Whether through partner sex or sacred solo pleasure, orgasm during menstruation can feel like a full-body exhale.

5. Is there a spiritual or energetic cost to period sex?

Yes. And this is where discernment really matters.

Your menstrual phase I like to define it to be energetically porous.

It’s a time of shedding, releasing, and opening.

If the person you’re exchanging energy with is not aligned, not safe, or emotionally unavailable... you may take on energies that are very hard to release.

This is where women often get "entangled" even for years or also lifetimes.

But when you’re in sacred union... whether that’s with a partner or with yourself, period sex can become:

• A womb clearing

• A nervous system recalibration

• A deep merging of trust, intimacy, and love
  It can be one of the most sacred experiences your body receives.

6. What Does Ayurveda Say About Period Sex?

In Ayurvedic medicine, menstruation is considered a time of deep purification.

The body is governed by vayus which are subtle winds of energy that guide how life force flows. During your bleed, the dominant force is Apana Vayu,  the downward-moving current that supports elimination, detoxification, and release.

This is the energy that helps cleanse the womb, move out toxins, and guide the monthly reset of your reproductive system.

From this view, penetration during menstruation is discouraged, because it’s thought to disturb the downward flow and redirect energy in a way that may lead to stagnation, imbalance, or even illness over time.

And yes, this is a wise and valid perspective. Especially if:

• You feel depleted

• You’re not emotionally grounded

• The partner isn’t energetically clean

• There’s no intention or presence in the connection

BUT…

What I’ve learned through my own body, and through hundreds of women who have shared their truth with me is that no ancient teaching is more powerful than your own discernment.

There is no universal law that overrides how your body, your womb, and your heart respond in the moment.

When I’m with a man who is:

• Devotional

• Respectful of my bleed

• Clean in body, mind, and energy

• And knows how to truly merge, not just take...

Period sex becomes a ritual, not a disruption.

After each time my husband and I make love during my bleed, he thanks me.
He feels the depth. The honor. The beauty.

The blood becomes this way something holy.

So while Ayurveda offers sacred insight... you are the final authority on your body.
Let your truth guide you, not just the texts.

7. Listen to Your Body, Not the Shame

Woman, you don’t have to have sex on your period.

But if your body wants it… If your heart feels safe… If your yoni is saying yes…

Then know this:

You are sacred.
You are cyclical.
You are wildly alive.

So let your pleasure be part of your healing.
And let your blood be part of your liberation.