For those of you unaware, May is Masturbation Month and May 28th is International Masturbation Day.
This commemoration was created in 1995 by a San Francisco sex shop (Good Vibrations), in response to President Bill Clinton firing the then-Surgeon General, after she suggested that masturbation be taught as a part of sex education.
Since then, this day has spread worldwide, focused on creating awareness, conversation and acceptance of this self-gratifying act that in this day and age still holds so much confusion and stigma.
Before heading to my favourite way to celebrate this month...
I want to highlight something important.
I was checking on the etymology of the word "MASTURBATION" and was I found kinda shook me:
Masturbation was first seen as a disorder.
In "Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation" Thomas W Laqueur, a professor of history at the University of California at Berkeley, reviews more than 2,000 years of thinking and writing about masturbation, and his conclusions are quite shocking.
Masturbation as we know it, he claims, was invented in about 1712, born of a tract that named a new disease and singlehandedly created a "nearly universal engine for generating guilt, shame, and anxiety".
That tract was Onania; or, The Heinous Sin of Self Pollution, and all its Frightful Consequences.
Laqueur seems to believe that what was once regarded as a disease, has now come to be seen as a cure.
Which I completely name as an absolute Truth.
The words that we use impact our experience of life.
When I use the word "masturbation" I always sense a feeling of heaviness and something that is taking away from me rather than giving and nourishing.
Self pleasure on the other hand... gives me such ease and expansion.
To think we were born innocent into physical bodies and blessed with access to our senses and their resulting pleasure...
Our bodies are wired throughout with nerve endings that produce sensations, and our genitals hold the most nerve endings compared to any other part of our bodies.
We have numerous erogenous zones where we can feel powerful feelings of pleasure just from the lightest of touches.
Our self-pleasure is not only our birthright, it's a roadmap to intrinsically get to know who we are and train ourselves on how to engage with the world, people, relationships through the joy and ease we experience in the bedroom.
So, fu*k you patriarchy!
And let's see how we can start enjoying self-pleasure as from today.
MY FAVOURITE WAY TO CELEBRATE SELF PLEASURE MONTH
Honestly, by doing what I already do every day.
- Tuning in and doing regular check ups on the sensations and feelings of the body (jaw unclenching, relaxing my anus, my vaginal muscles in every moment just by bringing awareness to it)
- Dedicate at least 1 - 2 times a week for at least 45 min / 1 h to my self pleasure practice (if you are a mom like me, carving at least once a week will do you so well);
- Abiding by lifestyle habits and choices that promote my pleasure rather than perpetuating stress factors that diminish my pleasure potential (poor nutritional habits, lack of physical activity, mental stessors, leaking energy towards people and things that do not align with what I desire...).
HOW TO GET STARTED WITH SELF PLEASURE?
If self-exploration is new to you, this is definitely the best time to get started!
Treat a self pleasure practice like a new relationship with another person:
Be curious and give it time.
You don't just have to necessarily focus in on majorly erogenous zones unless it's what feels alive for you to do in the moment.
You can start by preparing a sensual space where you will feel safe and comfortable for an hour or so.
Turn off mobiles, alarms, lock the door if necessary... this creates safety.
Lighting up candles, incense, adorning the space with flowers or crystals, bringing beautiful objects or creating an altar... will evoke inspiration and unwind the nervous system which can already open the body.
Turn on some sensual music to get you in the right mood: our playlists on Spotify are so appreciated by you.
To open up the body and relax it even more you can also make a warm bath or take a shower.
Get naked and have an oil handy (our Ritual Oils is an incredible libido booster), or any organic cold-pressed oil that you fancy.
And then after rubbing your hands with your favourite oil, start by touching your skin, you can start from your face, explore your earlobes, your notice the way your fingers caress your neck, your collarbones.
You can then caress and massage your breasts, hold your belly with your hands.
Then stroke your hips and thighs steadily moving closer to your genital area.
And then, keep going.
Feel ALL the feels.
You may find that that light touch is just enough. Or maybe you want to apply more pressure, a percussive tapping, a tweaking.
We curious and open to experience different sensations.
HAVE FUN AND MAYBE EXPERIMENT WITH DIFFERENT TYPES OF SACRED PLEASURE TOOLS
In our shop everything we offer is intentionally created and curated for you to experience the highest vibrational, world-class sessions of self-pleasure.
Here are our top suggestions:
If you are more intrigued or pulled for a more Yin and feminine practice, where you wish to learn how to build trust and confidence within yourself, you wish to radiate your magnetism from the inside out, you wish to build more muscle and tone your pelvic bowl to open up (rather quickly) towards expansive and juicy orgasms, then a Yoni Egg could be a great choice.
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If you wish to go for a more penetrative practice, where you train to surrender and open up more towards the masculine force, if you wish to release stagnant energy, numb or pain points in your vagina and get to know your vagina in every nook and cranny, if you desire to feel the girth of being penetrated and filled up by the sensual energy of the Earth then a Yoni Wand could be calling you.
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